If you heard something about Serbia, you might’ve also heard a couple of words about the Serbians. It is said that they are the biggest haters of America and the Western European countries in Europe, save for Russians. There are several reasons for that, many of them are pretty well-founded. Though, of course, many of them are also closely intertwined with the not-so-true stereotypes about these people.
Table of content:
- Why all the hate?
- The background
- What now?
- Will it affect your relationship?
- How to minimize disappointment?
- The compatibility
- English language
- The world overview
- In conclusion
Despite all this alleged hate, there is a lot in the Serbian ladies to like them for. A lot of them combine being pretty traditional with elegance, but it’s better you learn all of it by yourself someday.
Why all the hate?
If you were born sometime in the 90s or can use the Internet, you may know about the Yugoslav wars, the conflict that tore Serbia, Croatia, Bosnia and then Kosovo apart. It is not exactly the main reason why you may not get along with the Serbian woman you fell in love with, but it may very well be one of the factors.
While it may not be as interesting to dig into this mess for you, the conflict being the monument of history as of today, it’s crucial to understanding the Serbian nature. The marks left by shelling and the mines can still sometimes be found even in the cities.
So, it won’t hurt if you know just a bit about what went on during those times. Like when parts of Yugoslavia started declaring independence, and the central government located in Belgrade decide to stop it, eventually making the war not about preserving the nation, but rather an ethnic conflict.
Russia and a few other countries backed Serbia in it, and the United States, Britain, France (to the latter two the attitude is generally positive if you don’t proudly cry that you’re a Briton, to Americans, however, it’s bad regardless), and many more backed Croatia, Bosnia and later Kosovo.
The Western interference, cruel bombardments and the detainment of several prominent Serbs for a long time without any proof that they’ve committed war crimes made the West an enemy of the whole nation of Serbia for a long time.
Well, it may be gruesome and cruel, but it surely can’t be the case now. The Serbs can’t hate the Americans for what their military did, can they? Well, this coin has several sides.
For those who were born before the wars ended, it is a very personal matter. Belgrade was bombed and many people lost their relatives and friends. For those who were born after the ending, it’s not so certain.
A lot of young adults may simply not care, because they generally don’t care about a lot of things. Kosovo, the harshest insult, however, frequently reminds everyone about its existence, making it hard to forget the Serbian massacres. That’s why most people have slightly negative views, which may or may not affect the relationship.
Will it affect your relationship?
See, if your alleged Serbian girlfriend has some stigma against your country, she’ll probably not want to date you. That is, of course, if you tell her where you come from (which you should) and not lie about it. If all there is are just some negative vibes, then she may keep in touch with you, because talking to a guy from the West is still an interesting experience.
And while you’re having some interesting discussions, you may try and incline her to like you more and see through all the hate and prejudice, using your charming personality or whatever.
And yes, you shouldn’t lie about your origins to get better treatment, probably. If the relationship gets more serious, it’ll eventually come into the light, which will be pretty painful.
However, if you mean to have a small romance with one of these Serbian ladies without much consequence, you can twist the truth a bit.
How to minimize disappointment?
There is, of course, something you can do to make the risks of a woman rejecting you smaller. What you need to do is get the specifically English-speaking dating app on your phone and look for the Serbian ladies there. Dating them there may not shield you from the issue completely, but it will help for several reasons:
- Apps like Tinder are designed by the westerners and largely for the westerns. So, if a woman is very much opposed to anything from the West, she likely won’t use it, you can count on that because jingoism applies to such small things before others. At the same time, if the woman from Serbia is using it, then she’s likely not against the West, or not as much against it;
- Such apps are mostly used by the young people in Serbia, among which there is a much larger proportion of people who simply don’t care for the prejudice (that being a pretty healthy mode of life, by the way). That doesn’t stop a lot of them from being dumb and assuming too much. So… you win, you lose;
- Most people on such dating apps tend to let go of the stereotypes and prejudice. It’s not a rule, however. Even on the friendliest platforms, there are people who like to wreck everyone’s nice day by assuming something they have zero understanding of
The question of whether or not your partner will want to accept you isn’t that hard. The real question here is whether she’ll be able to, for different reasons. And, you know, the situation isn’t hopeless.
It is believed by many outsides of Eastern Europe that Slavs generally speak English on a very poor level. The belief largely comes from the depiction of Russian in Hollywood movies. There they speak very little of this language, and always with a strong accent. And it’s not necessarily untrue.
The Serbs, on the other hand, know English on much better a level. 57% of the Serbian ladies can speak it, and the majority of those who count as proficient in it are young women (probably your choice). So, you probably wouldn’t need to learn Serbian to talk to the locals like you’d need to learn Russian, for instance.
It means that the Serbian people who use the Internet will probably be able to communicate with you so that you could express your feeling and materialize your thoughts almost thoroughly. And if you choose to visit Serbia, you’ll get an even better welcome. People here, though being skeptical of some westerners, especially the insolent, and especially — American, like to talk to visitors whenever possible.
The world overview
The somewhat popular misconception is that as soon as you land in some Eastern country, you’ll see that locals there are behaving differently from what you’re used to at home. The language, the traditions, and other core values are one thing, you can’t sweep them away.
The popular stuff, however — what they wear, eat, watch, listen to, and also a lot of general behavior — are just like in the West. In short, you’ll find that deeper inside the Serbian ladies you’re dating have much uncommon with you. On the surface, however, they are exactly like anyone else.
So, don’t worry that you won’t be able to find the common ground, because you will. It’s even truer if you both are frequent on the Internet because of the users have a very similar concept of thinking.
If you behave, you need not fear being rejected on a sole purpose of your origins. Nor do many of those who visit the Internet frequently will try to remember something from the past to rub in your face. The Internet is full of hate. If you want to find someone you could trust there, you should not be toxic towards them, it is a principle some of the more modern inhabitants of the Balkans adhere to.
But the nice part is that, for the most part, the Serbians are very similar to the modern westerners, and yet there’s a lot you can discover in them, making the relationship you might build quite exciting.
Well, that’s the end of the article. It’s excellent that you’ve finished it — now you can read even more articles, like this one, for instance. Only if you want to, of course. And if you like, you can even watch the video below for some more information on the Serbian ladies: